8 Reasons Why a Person Can’t Stay Sober
Why are some people ready to become and remain clean and sober, but others aren’t? Some people can’t honestly say they’ve tried to become sober, but many have attempted it and not been able to do it for a long period of time. What causes someone to relapse? Why are some people ready and others aren’t?
There are many reasons why sobriety may not have been permanent the first time someone does it, and here are the top 8 reasons why:
1.) Fear of missing out on the fun: This is one of the main reasons why a person will continue to drink and abuse drugs for so long. It’s fear of missing out on the “party” and not being in the center of the action that prevents someone from giving up their substance of choice. Internalizing the fear of missing out on the fun, can keep someone stuck in the vicious cycle of addiction for years.
2.) “Why Me?”: It’s not at all unheard of for someone to think “why me” when faced with the reality of getting sober. Addiction makes one wallow in pity and ignore their problem with drugs or alcohol. The thoughts of why they can’t handle drugs or alcohol and to not be the odd one out when with friends, can prevent someone from taking sobriety seriously.
3.) You haven’t had enough misery, yet: This is a big issue. When someone is engaged in active addiction they go through a lot of pain and misery, but once they have had enough only then will they consider becoming clean and sober. Once a person has a moment of clarity and realizes they deserve better, they begin to accept their addiction and want to genuinely do what it takes to get clean and sober.
4.) You think you don’t have a problem: Obviously, one of the biggest issues surrounding addiction is the person is not willing to admit they have a problem. Denial is a strong emotion and it’s a crutch which allows an addict to justify or explain away their addiction. The back and forth of denial is what prevents many people from accepting professional treatment.
5.) The thought of never drinking or using drugs again scares you: Before someone decides to stop drinking or using drugs, the concept of a sober life is not easily accepted. The thought of never drinking or using drugs again and being sober forever is frightening. One of the most common things you will hear someone in recovery say is “one day at a time,” and this is true, a person must make the conscious choice to embrace sobriety every day.
6.) Physical addiction: This can be a very serious issue and a main reason why people have such a hard time becoming clean and sober. When you are dealing with physical addiction trying to get clean and sober can wind up making someone very sick. If using drugs or alcohol helps you to cope and get through a day, something is wrong. You don’t have to live that way and if you are serious about sobriety, it may be time to seek some professional help.
7.) You aren’t worthy of a clean and sober life: One common thing addicts share is feeling unworthy of being loved and having a decent life. It’s not unusual for someone with addiction to feel like they don’t deserve anything better. Once the thought of sobriety becomes a serious reality, these feelings will go away and you will come to understand you are worth it and you can feel the beauty and joy of living in recovery.
8.) You’re not ready to let go of your addiction: Sobriety is something that requires dedication and perseverance. It’s a lifelong process and sometimes it can take years to understand it and remain abstinent. If you can’t remain clean and sober, chances are good you aren’t ready to let go of your addiction. However, you shouldn’t use any reason as an excuse to give up trying to become clean and sober. When you are ready and willing, sobriety is waiting for you, all you must do is grab it and hold onto it.