People in Recovery – Free from Addiction
When you graduate High School, people tell you that as you get older, you will gradually have fewer and fewer friends. For those whose marriages work out long term, friends aren’t as important as they are to single people as they age. The worst feeling in the world is to wake up one day and realize that you’re all alone.
How does this happen to people in recovery, do they set themselves up to be alone? Is it a part of the disease of isolation that was never healed? Is it just life on its own terms? No one should go through life alone or end up alone in this world. I was watching a special on Holocaust survivors the other night; I was amazed at how many of the elderly survivors live alone in poverty. I remember the night that my mother passed in the hospital with her three children bedside; I will never forget the doctor’s words. He said, “You mother was fortunate, most elderly people die all alone.”
It’s sad to see the elderly that are all alone in nursing homes, no visitors, no friends, or family. In the rooms of recovery, there is a fellowship, but not everyone fits into the social network; some people are loners. It seems like when you enter recovery, many of your old “friends” drift away, never to be heard from again. It reminds me of when a rookie police officer joins the force they tell him or her that your old friends will disappear, and your new friends will all be cops. Within a short period, that’s exactly what happens, regular people drift away, and all that are left are fellow officers. I don’t know if it’s a matter of trust, identification, common bond, or what? I think it’s very similar to what happens with people in recovery but not as drastic.
It’s a real slap in the face when one day you wake up, and youth has gone along with your relationship, and your friends. You spend decades building trust, communication, and people that know you, how do you ever replace them?
Loneliness is a killer just like addiction
The question that we have to ask ourselves is, do we choose to be alone? Do we set ourselves up in the long run?
It’s easy to be kind to the “beautiful people” the individuals with great personalities, wealth, and everything going for them. How many of us take time out of our day to spend with a homeless person that hasn’t had a shower for weeks, or the needy, or someone who is elderly, handicapped or disabled?
I watched a video tonight of a little person who could not talk; he was so full of love and positive energy that he made me smile, made me cry, made me laugh all within two minutes. This person had one of the most beautiful spirits that I have ever witnessed; he was amazing!
Most religions teach that we are our brothers and sisters keepers; a wonderful teaching in any faith, language, or culture. When is the last time you made a new friend, a real friend that will impact your life for years to come? I think as we journey through life, we should increase our friend’s list, not decrease it. Isn’t life all about sharing our gifting with the world to make it a better place than when we arrived? In the rooms of recovery, isn’t it about sharing our experience, strength, and hope with each other?
Those who have a Higher Power or The Divine in their lives are never alone as they walk in the sunlight of the spirit. We are all on this journey together, like it or not, we are! We may as well take care of everyone on the way. Take the risk, open up and let someone new into your life today!
Best of life!
Editor in Chief
Addicted Minds & Associates